Some people get in the way of themselves in life. They get in the way of their own happiness, joy and satisfaction in life. They also get in the way of true enjoyment and even finding love. They do this, many times, by taking themselves too seriously.

Taking oneself too seriously can range in severity from mild to extreme. On the mild end of the range it can be getting frustrated or angry at yourself when you make a mistake or something just doesn't go the way you wanted it to.

In the middle range, it goes further where you dwell on it longer and it can effect your mood or general disposition. You might also put unreasonable expectations upon yourself and as a result of not fulfilling them, you become unhappy and your health can suffer. [Read more...]

How to Help Someone to Grieve After a Death

A while ago, a very close friend of mine asked me how she could help her boyfriend to grieve the recent and very sudden loss of his family member. Having been through the grieving process several times myself, I was able to guide her with some techniques that helped me during my times of grief.

So I've compiled a list of ways that you can help someone to grieve. In a couple weeks for my next post, I'll list some things to NOT say to or do with a person who is grieving.[Read more...]

What Does Success Look Like To You?

Success surely has its own meaning to many people and the meaning has surely evolved over the years. With that said, what does success look like to you?

The most common meanings for success revolve around wealth and/or a high paying high profile career. Because of this, a lot of people over the years have been striving for success from an early age. Many parents have pushed their children to be competitive in school and/or in sports and to attend the best schools. Once they get into the workplace that feeling of having to be competitive continues in the workplace and beyond. [Read more...]

It's Not What You Have But Who You Have That Counts

Many people spend years and years, sometimes their whole life, acquiring materialistic possessions. Sometimes they feel that the more they have the better. There are some that even have a hard time getting rid of the things that are no longer working or are useful to them.

There are people that put materialistic possessions over their relationships with others. They're constantly working and striving for more and more...possessions. They work and work just to keep up this lifestyle of acquiring things. It becomes a never ending cycle because they've allowed it to become one. They want more and more possessions, so they have to keep working harder and longer hours. [Read more...]

Be Grateful For What You Have

Have you or someone else you know, ever felt like nothing in your life is going right, or you've really missed out on having true happiness? How about wondering what you did wrong to have the life you have? Or even, why is it that everyone else has everything and you don't?

Well, it just might be that you haven't really given yourself the time and or opportunity to realize what you do have in your life to be happy about and grateful. [Read more...}

Stop the Hate

This weeks tragedy at Pulse, a Gay Nightclub in Orlando, saddens me on many levels. It also brings back many of the things I've personally had to deal with and handle as a person and furthermore, as a gay person.

People are speculating and have so many theories and opinions about this tragedy, that can make ones head spin. However, when you think about it on a deeper level, the root cause of this horrible tragedy and many other horrific tragedies and world violence is Hate. Whatever way you like to say it, whether Hate or Hatred, it's the cause of so much negativity and violence existing in the world. [Read more...]

We Need More Love and Kindness!

Today's tragic bombings in Belgium are for sure, a reminder of how precious our lives are and of how short life can be. It's also a sad reminder that there just isn't enough love and kindness in this world.

Imagine if we had the power to rid the world of anger, hate and violence with a magic wand. In one split second the world would be such a different place. It would be a very magical place full of love, peace, acceptance and respect for others and the world around us. [Read more...]

Inspirational & Self-HelpTJMarch 22, 2016love, kindness, belgium, lovelive, life, peace, acceptanceComment

Love is in the Air

Love is all around us, especially today on Valentine's Day. But what does Valentine's Day mean to you? Does it only mean, romantic love, or can it include other kinds of love? Is this the only day of the year that we should focus on love for others?

For me, Valentine's Day has naturally focused on romantic love... the love for my partners. Things like romance, sharing and the bond between us, were always in the mix of thoughts and activities on this day...[Read more]

Inspirational & Self-HelpTJFebruary 14, 2016love, kindness, relationships, hobbies, romance, friends, world, cooking, February 14 Comments

Welcome to my World!

Hello there! I'm TJ. I'm here to share a little about me, my life, my experiences- past and present. Hopefully, in the process, I'll help to make the world a better more joyful place, and inspire others to do the same. With all of us working together, we can make a difference and have more joy and fulfillment in our lives. Who wouldn't want to live in a more joyful world?... [read more]

February 1, 2016inspire, guru, intuition, unconditional love, strength, world, spirituality, relationships, love, love guru, inspiration, happy, initiative, joyComment