I've heard some people say that respect is something that has to be earned and not given. I do have to admit that when I hear that, it makes me wonder why why and how they came to believe in that concept.

I come from a different point of view, where I believe that respect should be given to all people right from the beginning- meaning that we should respect everyone and show respect to them right from the beginning. By saying "everyone", I mean all people including our family members, friends and even strangers.

Your First Impression Is Usually Right

We all form a first impression of people we come across in life, sometimes within seconds of being exposed to them for the first time. It's a very natural thing that people do, either based on past experiences or their gut instinct or "intuition".

How to Help Someone to Grieve After a Death

A while ago, a very close friend of mine asked me how she could help her boyfriend to grieve the recent and very sudden loss of his family member. Having been through the grieving process several times myself, I was able to guide her with some techniques that helped me during my times of grief.

So I've compiled a list of ways that you can help someone to grieve. In a couple weeks for my next post, I'll list some things to NOT say to or do with a person who is grieving.[Read more...]

Could You Be Creating Chaos and Conflict?

Have you ever asked yourself, "When is my life ever going to calm down?", "Why can't I just get along with people? Or "Why don't people like being around me?"? If so, you need to take a good look at yourself and see if you are the reason for your chaotic and conflicted life.

Some chaos or conflict comes naturally in life. In small amounts, it can be a good thing that shakes up the routine or gets important issues out into the open, but in greater amounts, it is destructive. It's a strange phenomenon, but some people just seem to subconsciously crave and create a lot of chaos and conflict in their lives.

These same individuals complain endlessly about how chaotic, hectic, crazy and conflicted their lives are, but as soon as it seems to calm down or become more peaceful- they create more. They do this because subconsciously, they crave chaos and conflict because they don't know how to handle life without it. [Read More...]

Relationships, Inspirational & Self-HelpTJNovember 29, 2016chaos, conflict, relationships Comment

Aspire To Be Better

Aspiring to be better leads to one growing as a person. As one grows, a person becomes more self aware. With more self awareness, you can experience life better and expand your horizons. When you expand your horizons, you enjoy life more and you feel more joy.

When you aspire to be better and adopt its various inter-related elements into your life, you create a positive continuous cycle for yourself. Keep in mind, this cycle is an ever changing dynamic one and you will revisit various stages of the cycle. Also, the order of the stages will change as you go through life. [Read more...]

It's Not What You Have But Who You Have That Counts

Many people spend years and years, sometimes their whole life, acquiring materialistic possessions. Sometimes they feel that the more they have the better. There are some that even have a hard time getting rid of the things that are no longer working or are useful to them.

There are people that put materialistic possessions over their relationships with others. They're constantly working and striving for more and more...possessions. They work and work just to keep up this lifestyle of acquiring things. It becomes a never ending cycle because they've allowed it to become one. They want more and more possessions, so they have to keep working harder and longer hours. [Read more...]

Forgiving Yourself Is Important Too!

We all can be really hard on ourselves at times. Some of us can be so hard on ourselves that we keep beating ourselves up over something that we did in the past that we truly regret and feel great remorse. We may have hurt other people's feelings or have done hurtful things to others, with or without intending to do so. It happens sometimes without us being able to prevent it. [Read more...]

The Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness has a tremendous impact on your ability to experience True Joy in your life. Now, you're probably scratching your head right now and wondering how that can be true? Here are some things to take into consideration about Forgiveness if you want to increase your chances for True Joy. [Read More...]

Think Before You Speak

Has anyone ever said something to you that really hurt your feelings? Have you ever said something to someone and saw their reaction, and felt like sticking your foot in your mouth? If so, I bet you had to do some major damage control afterwards.

None of us are perfect, and we all mess up at times. We've all said something that we regret afterwards. The trick is to prevent as many of those hurtful and insulting moments from happening in the first place. Damage control does take a lot of effort and sometimes you can't ever repair the damage. [Read more...]

Your Mood is Contagious

Yup, it's true! Your mood is contagious, and that could be a good thing or it could be a downer for others.

When you're in a good mood, it spreads onto others. It is a very powerful thing how your good mood can bring someone else up in spirits, and can calm their nerves or at the very least, make others feel good. [Read More...]

Love is in the Air

Love is all around us, especially today on Valentine's Day. But what does Valentine's Day mean to you? Does it only mean, romantic love, or can it include other kinds of love? Is this the only day of the year that we should focus on love for others?

For me, Valentine's Day has naturally focused on romantic love... the love for my partners. Things like romance, sharing and the bond between us, were always in the mix of thoughts and activities on this day...[Read more]

Inspirational & Self-HelpTJFebruary 14, 2016love, kindness, relationships, hobbies, romance, friends, world, cooking, February 14 Comments

Welcome to my World!

Hello there! I'm TJ. I'm here to share a little about me, my life, my experiences- past and present. Hopefully, in the process, I'll help to make the world a better more joyful place, and inspire others to do the same. With all of us working together, we can make a difference and have more joy and fulfillment in our lives. Who wouldn't want to live in a more joyful world?... [read more]

February 1, 2016inspire, guru, intuition, unconditional love, strength, world, spirituality, relationships, love, love guru, inspiration, happy, initiative, joyComment