Forgiving Yourself Is Important Too!

We all can be really hard on ourselves at times. Some of us can be so hard on ourselves that we keep beating ourselves up over something that we did in the past that we truly regret and feel great remorse. We may have hurt other people's feelings or have done hurtful things to others, with or without intending to do so. It happens sometimes without us being able to prevent it. 

The guilt that results from this eats at us and results in destructive energy and stress. This in turn prevents us from truly being happy and moving forward as better people. How can you truly be happy when you feel like you are a horrible person not worthy of happiness?

In last weeks post, I mentioned about forgiving others and how it can empower you to be happy. In this case, there are things you can do when YOU are the one that needs forgiveness. These things can help you to move on from regrets and unnecessary remorse.

Say "I'm Sorry"

When it's possible and in everybody's best interest to bring up something painful from the past, apologize by saying "I'm sorry" to the people involved in the situation. You will find many times, that the other person or people involved, feel remorse as well, and your pro-activeness will be the catalyst to easing tensions and possibly improve your relationship with them. It is a very strong person to admit when they are wrong. Sadly, there are times when apologizing is not possible; either because the others involved have died, are unreachable or there is just no hope for a productive conversation with them.

Forgive Yourself

Whether you were fortunate to be able to apologize for your actions or especially if you were NOT able to apologize, you need to also then forgive yourself. Just saying "I'm sorry" does not free you of the remorse you feel inside for your actions. It is through forgiving yourself that you can truly learn from your past mistakes, grow as a better person and release destructive energy within you.

We all have the capability of being better people. By apologizing by saying "I'm sorry" to others and through forgiving yourself as well, you can then move forward and realize that you are indeed not a horrible person and that you are worthy of happiness and alas... True Joy.